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As much as I want to be completely factual and give great advice about relationships I have to admit to myself that it is impossible.

Everyone is different. What’s right for one couple will be a complete deal breaker for another.

That’s why, when you ask your friends for advice on how you handled the situation and they call you a complete idiot, you have to trust yourself.

There’s a guy. There’s always a guy. For me its a consistent guy. We date, we fight, we throw out the unmentionables, and we break up only to find each other texting the other within weeks or days. This guy was the reason I started this blog in the first place. Because when you love someone, when its not working out you feel like your entire collections of emotions and thoughts are forming a hurricane inside your brain and your heart all at the same time.

Love kinda sucks in that aspect.

But at the same time your body is constructing the very means for an apocalypse, there can be hope that your mind will give you an idea to help lead the path for a clear mind…

and a full heart.

This blog helped let the boy who I fell in love with, find out how to be a man and get in touch with his own feelings.

And those feelings were that he loved me back very much so. 

Now before I tell you we rode off into the sunset on matching white stallions, I’ll let you know that this boy of a man is not my boyfriend. Which leads me back to where I started about paths.

Some people may see this opportunity of sharing feelings as a way to finally settle down and make a solid relationship. Others may see it as closure to finally move on.

I saw it as the love of my life loves me back, and we can finally be together.

He saw it as not wanting to lose me, but not being ready to grow up just yet.

When I first realized this, I was livid. How could he not be ready? We spent two years getting to know each other inside and out, going through so many hard times with each other, the hardest times with each other, and somehow found a way to be with each other through it all. 

I started many an argument with him about it. Throwing out the “if you’re not ready you’ll never be ready.” and “how can you want a future without wanting a present” because at the time that seemed to make so much sense right? You can’t have a future with someone when you aren’t even with them.

Then it hit me how cliche I was being. How much of my life I had been basing off of movies and how I was molded into thinking relationships were supposed to be a certain way.

You either are with someone or you aren’t. They’re your boyfriend or they are not. Black and white. Right or wrong.

But life is not like that; there’s grey all OVER the damn place its a bit frustrating to be honest.

To make ends meet I will say that the Constipated Pitcher and I have a future together. It may not last forever or it very well could, that much I don’t know. But what I do know is that it doesn’t have to start tonight. If I want him in my life I have to compromise and understand that even though we want the same things in the end, we have to take our own paths to get there.

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One of my best friends has been blessed with a daughter. And my, what a blessing she is.

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I used to look all over the internet (especially all over tumblr.) for quotes about relationships that would help me understand my situation better. Or to get a sense of what I’m supposed to look out for in a guy, or something to help me make a decision.

Basically I looked for quotes to tell me how to handle my life.

One quote that always seemed to stick with me went something like this:

“If he really wants you, he’ll come after you. If he doesn’t come, don’t wait.”

Now I really followed this, because I thought, well Hell, that makes a shit-ton of sense to me. Why would someone not go after something they want? Especially something that could potentially provide them so much happiness.

Well, after following this advice for most of my dating life, I’m here to tell you the truth.

That quote isn’t complete bullshit, but its not a rule, its a guideline.

Don’t try to fit your relationships into the molds of quotes because that’s what you think you should be, nothing works out perfectly like another situation. Sure, somethings overlap, and cute situations arrive just as someone else experienced it.

But it will always be different, because even one tiny difference in a person can alter the path of any situation.

If he wants you, he may come after you. If he’s had you and you’ve had a falling out, follow your gut. If you look at this guy and can’t stop thinking about what he did wrong, it may be entirely wrong for you and you should move on, or you just need to give yourself space.

If you’re like me, you will see this person and he still lights up your entire world, inside and out. Still gives you those silly giggles, and its impossible not to follow his lead on everything because no matter what he does, your heart trusts he won’t ever do you wrong.

Don’t ever let someone who makes you feel that way be out of your life without a fight. Ever.

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They do something that really makes you confused.

This leads to being so frustrated that you get angry.

Then this anger leads to crying.

Crying leads you to call the person you love.

The person you love leads to happiness.

Love isn’t really that confusing at all, is it?

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